Mittwoch, 31. Dezember 2008

Molly Brogan: The Keyless Entry of Self Image

Self-image is the personal view we have of ourselves. It is our mental image or self portrait. Self-image is an internal dictionary that describes the characteristics of the self, including concepts like intelligence, beauty, kindness, selfishness or insensitivity.  

These characteristics form a collective representation of our assets and liabilities as we see them. Relationships reinforce what we think and feel about ourselves. Self-image is important because how we think about ourselves directly affects how we feel about ourselves and how we respond to life.

 I'm Nobody! Who are you?
Are you—Nobody—Too?
Then there's a pair of us!
Don't tell! they'd advertise—you know!
How dreary—to be—Somebody!
How public—like a Frog—
To tell one's name—the livelong June—
To an admiring Bog!
[Emily Dickinson]

How we think and feel about ourselves influences the way we react or respond to life stressors. A hopeless self-image can lead to suicide. Self-image possessing body strength and health can lead to wellness. A loving self-image can lead to a life full of loving relationships. An angry self-image can lead to a life of isolation. A fearful self-image can lead to a life of suffering. In these ways, self-image can determine the quality of our relationships with others.
How we imagine ourselves to be can be different from how we witness ourselves to be, but ultimately the two will become the same if our desire to be as we imagine is unwavering. Depending on the beliefs we gather throughout our life, our self-image can bring us success and happiness, or, on the other hand, failure and misery. But this image can change, if we start questioning our beliefs about our selves and our lives. When our belief system falls apart, we
are ready to receive a greater truth, and resurrect belief, born anew with possibility.


 veryheaven said...
dear molly, love your headline - and it´s so true: we and our influencers (?) have created countless concepts of self. we have and offer keyless entries for others. but as someone said "it all lays in the eye of the beholder". let´s hope that whoever faces us that their eyes are not wide shut ;-)
@ howard:
self-identity should not be the only self-foundation one releys on. identity is not a fixed thing for me. identity has many faces - so the self. i am many, how many are you?

HAPPY HOLIDAYS, my dear molly,
your friend!

Howard said...
Molly I agree. Our self-image or self-identity is everything. It is the foundation for all of our perceptions and reactions in life. The reactions that stem from our protection or propagation of our self-image create the conditions (attract the people places and things) that allow us to experience ourselves.

Renata, One of the key aspects to the change you seek is to question whether the sponsoring memory or thought that gives your low self-image life still serves you. Is it even true anymore. While previously you have believed and experienced it as true it doesn't mean you have to still see it that way now. You are only and always who you say you are in each and every moment. You always hold the creative power over your self-definition. With this knowledge and a self-loving mindset the possibilities are endless.....

Mokuin said...
I have met somewhat awakened people who have had paranoically unbalanced views of themselves, for example they saw themselves as selflessly serving all being in the great name of Religious Vows, yet they would manipulate, belittle, and destroy anyone who questioned them in any way... Their view was that other people were sabotaging the greater good (which of course, had them in the high seat, and only they were qualified to determine what that was).

In such a case there is a clear split between the persons life, and their perception of that life. They were focusing on positivity and a positive image of themselves, yet that same (positive, from their perspective) focus was causing destruction, and ultimately their own unhappiness.
Because it was subjective and not connected to the real expereinces of others.

In this persons case the desire to be a helpful selfless person was unwavering, but their failure to be that was always projected out as the fault of others. So I wouldn't agree that just an unwavering determination creates ourselves as we would like to be..!

LOvely phrasing by the way - "The keyless entry of self image", very poetic!

Sondra said...
If receiving truth requires our belief system to fall apart, and we then get belief again, wouldn't that mean it would require those beliefs to fall apart for us to have truth again, starting up the cycle again?
I think what we're seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonance within our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive. That's what it's all finally about.
-Joseph Campbell

What do YOU think?

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