Freitag, 1. Mai 2015

Editorial Mai 2015: Don't take it personally


Plenty of people make fun of others, whether it's right or wrong; but it's not always meant to be harmful. If someone says to you, "You are the worst crybaby ever!" you should consider the context. If it's a friend saying it, you probably shouldn't take it too personally. This article will help you stop taking some comments personally.

8 Simple Steps

  1. Never react to whatever anyone says or does. It's not about you, its about them. Their comments are probably fueled by anger that may not be towards you at all.
  2. Yield to their pressure. Don't fight, respond for clarity. However, do not give in to their negativity. Imagine putting up a wall between the two of you that stops their confronting you, and your responding.
  3. Be kind. As said before, it can be hard to tell what has caused someone to say or do what they have. It's usually from an old hurt that has not been healed. This is fine, just know to give them space.
  4. Be willing to change. Know how to adapt to change. For example, if a coach tells you something that you're doing wrong and makes you feel a little bad, remember this coach is only trying to help you improve and be the best you can.
  5. It's important to stay calm and be happy. Although sometimes these two things are easier said than done, it's good to try.
  6. Never say "whatever," as it is a sign of frustration and feigned indifference that will ultimately bring you humiliation in the future. It can also be just another way for someone to know they've "got your goat."
  7. If you are picked on and laughed at, join in the laughter. Believe it or not, laughing at your own faults gives you the appearance of being happy with who you are.
  8. Always be open to advice no matter what kind it is. Both good and bad advice can forge you into a better person.


STOP BULLYING


Tips

  • Be confident in yourself. Know that whatever was said to you does not define you. You are inherently a great person.
  • Take three to five deep breaths! This clears the mind and gains solid grounding before responding.
  • Don't take every comment or opinion seriously, especially from negative individuals.
  • No man or woman was ever built perfectly or is flawless. Live by this philosophy.


Warnings

  • Try not to take it personally, but watch out for consistent negative or slanderous remarks. Some people are just hurtful and enjoy watching you squirm.
  • If physical abuse or harassment ever occurs, tell an authority figure immediately. (i.e. teachers, parents, bosses, police, etc.) These are serious crimes and are not to be taken lightly.


Thank you for providing this article,
my dear colleagues of wikiHow.

published 

16. Feb 2009 
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