Mittwoch, 16. September 2009

~ Editorial Sept 2009: Why do Strangers fall in Love?

Love is the state of oneness with a supposed stranger ... No, not really.
A person
who maybe only a few short months earlier was completely unknown to us. Is it possible to be swept into a whirlwind of emotions by someone we have just met? Does "love at first sight" really exist or is it just our own wishful thinking to be cared for unconditionally by another? I believe it does.

When You Say "I Love You..."
I've always believed that love is the energy that drives Heaven. Just as we have oxygen and light and food to live on here on Earth, love is the driving force for our souls to live on. It is the most powerful of all emotions.
I think when you feel real love; you have connected with another soul in Heaven. It is the crossing of two paths. The path you share is intertwined with everyone else on Earth, but some you can recognize more than others. Why is it that when you fall in love someone you seem to have instant familiar feelings? You finish each other's sentences, and feel like you have known them your whole life. They complete you as if you were never quite finished until you met
them. Attraction...yes. Caring for each other...yes. But what is with the feeling of overwhelming familiarity? It is because you do know them. And you have for a long, long time.

The Re-Connection ;-)
The great thing about falling in love is that it is not just a happenstance of luck. It is a reconnection, if you will. The soul in another that you have finally reconnected with that you have
been searching for. You cross paths with people everyday. We eat together, work together, and play together. We have many acquaintances and friends...but love is always a surprise. It
seems to come out of nowhere. But love is no accident and there is no real surprise.
When you finally touch base with the soul of another, you know it. The search comes to an end, but the real connection begins to unfold. There is everything in the Universe to be happy about.
What seems like a one in a billion chance has just come true.

I Love You has a lot of meanings.
When you hear it do you believe it? What does it mean to you? You need to know just how precious and rare reconnecting with the eternal soul of another is. And when it happens, you need not fear it. Make it the most worthwhile activity and nurture it as a delicate plant. Know that you have been given the greatest gift of all and make it your priority number one.
A heavenly gift? Absolutely!

So far - so good.
But lets see why many women and men turn into commitment phobes? Many western psychologists see a clear relationship between commitment phobia and a traumatic childhood. Their studies show that women who suffer from commitment phobia are deeply influenced by their childhood experiences that have seared their subconscious minds and given
birth to such unrealistic fears.According to the psychologists, commitment phobia can be caused by any of the following three situations that a child may have
undergone during her formative years:

1. Death of a parent: Children may not show grief but they are very
sensitive. A few of them may find it very difficult to accept the
passing of their father or mother to whom they were deeply attached.
Some of them can't bear to see the grief of their father or mother.
This is when their mind decides that they should not allow themselves
to get into similar situations. The logic is that there will be no
grief if there is no long-term relationship.

2. A messy divorce: There are many children who go into a shell
when they see their parents bickering over small things, and finally
breaking up. There are some girls who cannot reconcile themselves to
their stepfathers or stepmothers and cannot forgive their parents
for what they have done to their lives. Marriage to these girls seems
to be a relationship where they can only expect bitterness and hurt.
That is why they are so keen to avoid the "imagined" pains of marriage.

3. Abusive relationship: Some girls are never able to get over the
abuses inflicted by their parents, especially their fathers. They
therefore do not want to surrender to men once again, but want to
prize their independence much more. They are mortally scared to
risk an unhappy wedding or another abusive relationship.

4. Professional Tactics: for women avoiding long-term relationships
is purely professional. They may enter into a relationship at a time when
their career is poised to take off. They are so attached to their
career prospects that they are not willing to compromise on them.
Instead they want to postpone the marriage to a future date, which,
in most cases, never comes. But such successful women invariably
attract men who want to possess them ;)

Thank you for letting me be a part of your life!
Till next time, let your love fly free

Collin Martins next Theme on Blog Talk Radio: ~ Revolutionary Road ~ Be Fully You!
The Inner Dream vs The Society Dream --

Have you watched the movie Revolutionary Road? We are going to discuss the many ideas that this movie brings through. We can choose to live the reality of our own inner dream or we can submit to the dream that society holds for us. Which one of these will allow us to be our happiest? What can occur as a result of following a set of rules others create for us instead of following our own hearts?

22. Juni 2009 // 16. Sep. 2009

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